How we stand up, speak up and show up in life , and in the relationships we are surrounded with, has an impact on responding in a healthy way to bullies. You can educate and encourage your child, give them the tools and confidence to stand up to bullies, and be confident in themselves. At the root cause of bullying is relationship. By teaching our children the importance of honesty, love, kindness and gratitude in relationships, we can empower them to stand up, speak up and show up in life.
The following are bullying statistics provided by Bullying.org:
- Bullying happens to a student in Canada every 7 minutes on the playground and once every 25 minutes in the classroom.
- Adults such as teachers and parents, rarely see the bullying taking place.
- Bullying is a learned behavior and behaviors change through awareness and education.
- Both boys and girls who are victimized, report symptoms of depression, such as sadness, and loss of interest in activities.
- Watching bullying makes 83% of students feel uncomfortable.
3 Steps to Empower Your Child to Stand Up To Bullies
Step 1 – Educate Your Child to Stand Up to Bullies
- Educate your child and ensure they are aware of the impact of bullying. Bullying.org provides a number of resources to help you.
- Create an environment of openness so your child feels safe to talk about bullying.
- Empower your child to stand up to bullies with courage – be brave, and walk away.
Step 2 – Empower Your Child to Speak Up and Reach Out for Help
- Let your child know it is okay to reach out and ask for help. Asking for help is a sign of strength.
- Provide them with resources – phone numbers and internet links.
- Let them know you are there for them unconditionally.
Step 3 – Empower Your Child to Show Up with Love, Kindness and Gratitude
- Help your child to value and respect qualities in themselves and others. Show up in life with love, kindness and express gratitude on a regular basis.
- Encourage your child to shine brightly in their own individuality, and to stand up for what they believe in.
- Emphasize your child’s gifts: self-worth plays a huge role in their life. Point out their strength and gifts on a regular basis. Encourage them to do the same for others.
Books to Empower Your Child to Stand Up to Bullies
My daughters are 12 and 8. We spend a lot of time reading together, it is an opportunity to connect and learn. These are some of our favorite books: inspiring, real, authentic and beautiful – a must add to your home library.
Fink, Sheri., The Little Rose Sheri Fink, 2011.
Fox, Annie., Real Friends vs. the Other Kind (Middle School Confidential) Free Spirit Publishing, 2009.
Joy, Shelly., Little Bird You Are Perfect Mirror Publishing, 2010.
Steward Power, Leanne., You Are Sooooo Beautiful Soulstice Book Company, 2010.
Videos about Bullying
WARNING – Hero video clip has some graphic content
Important Phone Numbers for Bullying Help
Bullying Help Line 1-888-456-2323
ConnecTeen 403-264-TEEN (8336)
Kids Help Phone 1-800-668-6868
Befrienders worldwide resources and numbers.
Click HERE for Mental Health Resources.