The truth is – it is not always this way. And for women affected by postpartum depression or any mental illness, parenting is that much harder.
This Mother’s Day I wanted to shout out to all the Mom’s who are feeling alone, scared, shame filled, guilty, frustrated, and angry. You may be thinking I don’t deserve to be celebrated on Mother’s Day, what kind of a Mom am I anyway? I’m ruining my child, and she is better off without me, she deserves a better mother. Maybe you feel resentful that you ever had children, or wishing you could just run away. I think I am safe to say nearly all Moms have had some or all of these thoughts at one point or another, I know I have. Does that make us bad Mom’s NO – it makes us REAL Moms.
You are a wonderful Mom! Look at the journey it took to bring your bundle of joy into the world. The bond at birth, and the unconditional love and nurturing you provided. Even on those days where all you want to do is lay in bed and cry, you attend to your child’s basic needs and give them all you can give in that moment.
My wish for you is that you find grace for yourself, stop and look at the gifts you do bring to your children, the courage it takes to be a Mom. Let’s not forget patience, resilience, perseverance, commitment, kindness and love!
And don’t forget as a Mom you pretty much take on the role of Nurse, Therapist, Taxi-Driver, Mind-reader, Multi-tasker, Mediator, and all round jane-of-all-trades! You ROCK! How many people can add all of these to their resume??? You deserve to be celebrated, first and foremost by YOU.
Great Resources and links for Mom’s
Postpartum Support International – Tools for Moms
Befrienders 24 hours crisis lines across the world
Why is Mommy Sad? A Child’s Guide to Parental Depression
Down Came the Rain: My Journey Through Postpartum Depression
This Isn’t What I Expected: Overcoming Postpartum Depression
Happy Mother’s Day, always remember….